What do you want to change?
Maybe we want to change the way we look. Perhaps we feel that losing 10 or 15 pounds, and getting back in shape, would make a big difference.
We may want to change the way we relate to other people. Perhaps we feel that our life would be a more positive experience, if we could just improve the quality of our relationships. In other words, we want to develop more people skills. Many people are hurting because of the economic downturn, and consequently, they are looking for a positive financial change, a financial transformation.
What does personal transformation mean to you?
When you think about a personal transformation, what comes to your mind?
Maybe we want to change the way we look. Perhaps we feel that losing 10 or 15 pounds, and getting back in shape, would make a big difference.
We may want to change the way we relate to other people. Perhaps we feel that our life would be a more positive experience, if we could just improve the quality of our relationships. In other words, we want to develop more people skills. Many people are hurting because of the economic downturn, and consequently, they are looking for a positive financial change, a financial transformation.
What does personal transformation mean to you?
When you think about a personal transformation, what comes to your mind?
That sounds really good, doesn’t it?
Most of us probably think of some radical, all-encompassing change in a positive direction. We might think of elevating the quality of our whole life to an unprecedented degree.
But, is such a transformation within the realm of reality, or is it just something to dream about? And, if it were within the realm of reality, what kinds of skills would be required to pull it off?
When do you want it?
Life is far too short, and far too valuable to waste time trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t if we don’t have to. The sooner we learn the life skills we need, the faster we will get the results we truly want.
Once we have a systematic approach, and know how to apply the skills we have learned, life becomes a whole new experience. Struggle is replaced by welcome challenges and frustration gives way to purpose and satisfaction.
How to be yourself and be at peace
One of the best ways to develop a strong sense of inner peace is to take the time to discover your deepest personal values and passions. These two aspects of your true self define the person that you truly want to be. If you structure your self-expression around these core elements, you will create a deep sense of internal harmony.
Internal harmony is something that very few people ever realize because almost everyone is, to some degree, out of balance with their deepest values and passions. They are out of touch or insulated from their true self. When I work with others one-on-one, this is where we start. When I created TRUE SELF, this was the focus of the very first step. If you want a deep sense of inner peace, you need to discover what is at your very core, and build from there. You must discover your true self.
Not as difficult as it sounds
In spite of the psychological detours, the process is not as difficult as it might sound. By using a series of specially targeted questions, we can easily convince our deepest values and passions to come out of hiding and reveal themselves. Once that happens, the ability to “just be our true self, and be at peace,” tends to unfold naturally.
So, here we are back at that thought provoking Facebook comment, “just be yourself and experience peace.” Do I agree with that statement? Yes, as long as that person you call yourself is in reality your true self.
Most of us probably think of some radical, all-encompassing change in a positive direction. We might think of elevating the quality of our whole life to an unprecedented degree.
But, is such a transformation within the realm of reality, or is it just something to dream about? And, if it were within the realm of reality, what kinds of skills would be required to pull it off?
If it was possible, what would be involved?
Since a transformation is an ongoing process, obviously it requires some kind of systematic approach. A caterpillar does not become a butterfly by accident. Such a major transformation happens over a period of time, and involves a series of essential steps.
Doesn’t it seem logical that successfully elevating the quality of our life to an unprecedented degree would require a similar process? There are, in fact, certain essential steps that must be followed in the correct order. If we skip a step, or change the order, we won’t get the same results.
This does not necessarily mean the process is difficult. Making a cake requires a similar process, and yet, millions of people are capable of doing it. They simply follow a recipe that tells them what to do, and when.
Think about this next question carefully?
What if you had a life transformation recipe? Would you be willing to follow it?
If you had never made a cake before, would you try it without a recipe? If you did, what do you think would be your chances of success? How long would it take before you finally happened on the correct ingredients, and the right sequence?
Most of us are smart enough to realize the folly of such an approach. Now, let’s apply that reasoning to creating the life we really want. Are we fumbling around in the kitchen trying to figure out what comes next, or are we following a recipe?
Designing a personal transformation is a lot more involved than making a cake. But, don’t be overwhelmed by the seeming complexity of such a challenge. It’s not as difficult as you might think, once you have the recipe.
Since a transformation is an ongoing process, obviously it requires some kind of systematic approach. A caterpillar does not become a butterfly by accident. Such a major transformation happens over a period of time, and involves a series of essential steps.
Doesn’t it seem logical that successfully elevating the quality of our life to an unprecedented degree would require a similar process? There are, in fact, certain essential steps that must be followed in the correct order. If we skip a step, or change the order, we won’t get the same results.
This does not necessarily mean the process is difficult. Making a cake requires a similar process, and yet, millions of people are capable of doing it. They simply follow a recipe that tells them what to do, and when.
Think about this next question carefully?
What if you had a life transformation recipe? Would you be willing to follow it?
If you had never made a cake before, would you try it without a recipe? If you did, what do you think would be your chances of success? How long would it take before you finally happened on the correct ingredients, and the right sequence?
Most of us are smart enough to realize the folly of such an approach. Now, let’s apply that reasoning to creating the life we really want. Are we fumbling around in the kitchen trying to figure out what comes next, or are we following a recipe?
Designing a personal transformation is a lot more involved than making a cake. But, don’t be overwhelmed by the seeming complexity of such a challenge. It’s not as difficult as you might think, once you have the recipe.
When do you want it?
Life is far too short, and far too valuable to waste time trying to figure out what works and what doesn’t if we don’t have to. The sooner we learn the life skills we need, the faster we will get the results we truly want.
Once we have a systematic approach, and know how to apply the skills we have learned, life becomes a whole new experience. Struggle is replaced by welcome challenges and frustration gives way to purpose and satisfaction.
Regardless of what we want to change, all true transformation always begins on the inside. Once we become the person we want to be on the inside, our world rearranges itself accordingly. It doesn’t matter whether we want to be thinner, happier, richer, healthier, or all of those things, it always starts on the inside.
What can you do about it?
If you’re tired of fumbling around, looking for the answers, and wondering what comes next, now is a perfect chance to turn things around. Please, do yourself a favor
There is ALWAYS a choice
We listen to the voice we want to listen to, because ultimately, most people do what they want to do. What do you want to do? Which voice do you allow to guide your thoughts and actions? Once we have an answer to those questions, it becomes a matter of developing the habit of consistently making choices that will support our decisions.
If you’re tired of fumbling around, looking for the answers, and wondering what comes next, now is a perfect chance to turn things around. Please, do yourself a favor
We listen to the voice we want to listen to, because ultimately, most people do what they want to do. What do you want to do? Which voice do you allow to guide your thoughts and actions? Once we have an answer to those questions, it becomes a matter of developing the habit of consistently making choices that will support our decisions.
How to be yourself and be at peace
One of the best ways to develop a strong sense of inner peace is to take the time to discover your deepest personal values and passions. These two aspects of your true self define the person that you truly want to be. If you structure your self-expression around these core elements, you will create a deep sense of internal harmony.
Internal harmony is something that very few people ever realize because almost everyone is, to some degree, out of balance with their deepest values and passions. They are out of touch or insulated from their true self. When I work with others one-on-one, this is where we start. When I created TRUE SELF, this was the focus of the very first step. If you want a deep sense of inner peace, you need to discover what is at your very core, and build from there. You must discover your true self.
The self-discovery process
To be yourself, and be at peace with yourself, you must truly know yourself. Getting in touch with your true self is not usually as straightforward as we might like. The reason for this is because the real you likes to play hide and seek with your conscious mind. Our ego has a way of disguising our true self, so it requires some effort to unveil it.
We also have an emotional maze of pain and pleasure paradigms that will attempt to steer our efforts in the most comfortable direction. This is a built in safety mechanism that is designed to protect us emotionally, but it also tends to thwart our attempts at core discovery. If we are acting out of harmony with our true self we may subconsciously avoid facing that realization.
To be yourself, and be at peace with yourself, you must truly know yourself. Getting in touch with your true self is not usually as straightforward as we might like. The reason for this is because the real you likes to play hide and seek with your conscious mind. Our ego has a way of disguising our true self, so it requires some effort to unveil it.
We also have an emotional maze of pain and pleasure paradigms that will attempt to steer our efforts in the most comfortable direction. This is a built in safety mechanism that is designed to protect us emotionally, but it also tends to thwart our attempts at core discovery. If we are acting out of harmony with our true self we may subconsciously avoid facing that realization.
Not as difficult as it sounds
In spite of the psychological detours, the process is not as difficult as it might sound. By using a series of specially targeted questions, we can easily convince our deepest values and passions to come out of hiding and reveal themselves. Once that happens, the ability to “just be our true self, and be at peace,” tends to unfold naturally.
So, here we are back at that thought provoking Facebook comment, “just be yourself and experience peace.” Do I agree with that statement? Yes, as long as that person you call yourself is in reality your true self.
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